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I am objective.  At least I believe that I am so.  I spend so much effort trying to be objective…

And Objectively – I believe that I am a Great Catch.

Forget all of the “do” and “don’t,” I will now speak in defense of

MYSELF…

  • I am active.
    I maintain a fitness regiment.  I am always interested in trying new activites.  Going to cinema, theatre, sporting events.  When I had time, I was a semi-professional American football player, who traveled to different cities and sometimes other countries.  I often have travelled.
  • I have a good salary.
    I pay for a flat, have enough money to travel frequently, buy a “toy” or two, and still have saved money.
  • I am planning for the future.
    I have made a good profit investing in stocks and currently studying, Quantum Theory, in order to increase the profits made from my investments.I have started considering options about places to buy property.
  • I am concerned about others.
    When I had time, I often volunteered for various charity projects.  I enjoy making others smile… giving gifts.
  • I’m good with children.
    My main job is working with a child in the capacity of caretaker / educator and I’ve tutored the same children for a number of years.  I’ve also been referred to many other potential clients over the years.

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Basically, as I try to be objective about what type of man a woman would need… it seems that though, I am not the crème de la crème, I am pretty good.

BUT YET… Over and OVER Again girls treat me like I WOULD Be LUCKY To Have Them (And this attitute permenates the conversation even though their “reasoning” seems to be photographic or related to some sort of “divine right” of being born of the feminine gender…)

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OVERALL – Frankly… I Just Don’t Get It.

… except for maybe the line of reasoning that I derived from the following article…

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/10/the-importance-of-sharing-experiences/381493/

Basically the states that Unique Experiences to little to create social approval / acceptance and can actually hinder it…

My LIFE Experiences ARE RADICALLY Different From Almost ANYONE Else Around Me…

To give you some of the “Highlights,” I have attached my latest Tindle profile…

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For those who don’t read Russian… (it’s imperfect Russian since I’m not fluent yet) it says:

“Hi!  I want to met people, who have a similar background as me.  In my life I have traveled a lot, lived in many cities and a few countries.  I have a wide variety of experiences.
I graduated from a highly-ranked university and have an IQ score not less than 131. I speak…”

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Sorry, I Was Just Born This Way!!!

People just don’t realize, that EVERY @#$@%@% Day, in order to “Just Fit In”…
In Order to be UNDERSTOOD… I literally have to FORCEFULLY constrict the my brain…

(So much so that I TRULY DON’T Know ‘How Smart I Am’.  If I was to think, at anywhere near my Full NATURAL Speed for a length of time, almost NO ONE would understand me.

You might ask, “How do I know this”  BECAUSE I HAVE TRIED… (And Tried At Less Than 1/2 my capability))

My Brain LONGS to do THIS:

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But instead day after day, I am resticted to this…

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— Comic Relief —

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“I’m not bad, I’m just drawn that way!”

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I have tried numerous ways to connect with women, what I have discovers is that “dating tendencies” to be banally algorithmic.

  • They want to be “flattered” (but in an original way…)
  • They will often answer questions with general answers or extreme concisely
    The hardly every ask you about yourself… and if they do, it’s all too often associated with you “elligibility” (as opposed to “getting to know you” – in other words ‘What do you got to offer me?!?)
  • Their efforts are the basis of “punctuated equilibrium”… short period of rapid involvement… followed by long periods of inactivity…

There is the need for the “heart-pumping” excitement, the “lows” and “highs”, so typical of TV and Movie Rom-Coms, Sitcoms, and Soap Operas.

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This Algorithm Just Doesn’t Work For Me 

It’s so easy to see it’s existence and that THIS is the “cause” of romance, that it’s hard for me to respect people, who honestly devoted themselves to depend on such paltry deception in order to be “turned on.”

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I have found the “Dating Process” deplorably inefficient.  It’s seems like everyone is searching for “The One,” as opposed looking for a man or woman who will help them meet their future needs.

I Don’t Want So Wild Vivacious Quick Burning Romance – That’s STUPID.
I want to

  1. Meet someone
  2. Get to know someone
  3. Understand that person
  4. Fall in Love with that person (after I know who she is… as opposed to my projected image of perfection that is grossly inaccurate.).

I, for one, would never trust the “love” of a woman, who feels attraction based on her gut (feels), yet knows little about me (what makes me happy, sad, what happens when I’m tired, what my favorite things are, what make me comfortable, laugh, etc.)

I’ve had it happen before… and honestly, it’s ALWAYS is a turn-off.

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Using the same logic, how can I respect a woman, who wants a man to “pull out all stops” when he knows so little about her.

People who believe in such love think a juvenile, who is Convinced that he KNOWS how the world works, yet still lives under his parents wings and never has experienced any of the big trials of life…

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DESPITE MY FREQUENT DISAPPOINTMENT
I Still I still cling to the hope to find someone… who is not

  • Looking To Be Impressed,but rather
  • Looks To Understand, To Comprehend another…

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I know that for me… Love REQUIRES a that I feel like I KNOW the other person; it’s not the most important that my girl is sexy, exciting,…

I need to have the confidence, the security that she knows me and that I know her (at least well enough to see each others a lot of each others faults as well as strengths).

And that we Both have the goal of ensuring that our relationship will survive, that it will grow. (even though we WILL disagree at times on how to best do that 😉 )

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I love sports, and my favorite type of sport is team sports.  For 14 years, I played American football.  Very often, you must “sacrifice” yourself in order for a teammate to make a good play… but in the end, the “victory” is shared by the team.
But when you are a part of a good teamall team members understand and praise the sacrifices of their teammates… and give those sacrificed teammates as many moments to shine as possible too.

In short, teammates lookout for each other and realize that they need each other in order for the whole team to be successful.

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THE CAVEAT – Mother (Nature) Knows Best!

Maybe I’m a DEFECTIVE Deviant.  Maybe I’m harbor in my genome traits that are detrimentral towards the overall survival of the human race…

Maybe there is a positive evolutionary reason, that the vast majority of the human race seems to be fixated on faux interaction and the resultant faux intimacy in order to want to have relationships.

Maybe these the traits I have would lead to human beings less likely to survive (less fit) if they were passed on to the next generation… (Or maybe men and women, wouldn’t otherwise be motivated to try to be together, since hand-in-hand with relationships is conflict)

Of course,  since I’m still me, I believe that I’m not detrimentral to the advancement of the human race.  I believe that my genes should be passed on… (that I should have children).  I believe that I would make an excellent husband and father.  And that I would have children who would offer such value to the world as never before seen.  (Yes, I have a touch of arrogance).  (My children, would be raised to be intellectuals like their father (and possibly mother) not to accept, but to question everything… so they will see things that no one else will see.  They will supercede me.)

To believe anything else, would be for me to devalue myself and THAT is not in My Nature!

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